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Simple Steps on How to End an Emotional Affair
Author: Sandra Summers
Most of the time, people who are already imprisoned under this circumstance look for various ways on how to end an emotional affair. Since it takes time and effort to be able to build these types of affairs, it takes equal and even doubles the effort as well to finally end it. However there are loads of simple yet effective ways on how a person can end a mistake like this.
The most important thing to look at when trying your best to move out of an emotional affair would be to identify the reason as to why your relationship with a third party started in the first place. Why is this important? Identifying the reason why your emotional affair started is like looking for the root of the problem. Some question you can ask to yourself would be, "How did this happen?" "What made us this close?" Why am I stuck in this affair now?". Once you have identified these questions and answered them, you are on to the next step. Take accountability of the reason why this affair happened in the first place. If you are looking for various ways on how to end an emotional affair, this is one important item to look at. Stop blaming the other party for bringing you to this mess. Instead, accept the fact that you also did something wrong by crossing the limits of your primary relationship and having an affair with a different person. However, you should not allow yourself to be beaten by guilt; rather use this self acceptance for your personal improvement and growth.
The last and most important yet difficult thing to do in ending an emotional affair is finally making a decision to end it. It may seem like an easy task but in reality, it may me the most difficult one. Especially if you are way too much attached to the other party, making a decision to cut the affair is the most important task. These are just simple ways on how to end an emotional affair, at the end of the day, it depends as to how you will handle it.
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In love wth my friend. How do I end this?
I have a crush on this guy for a year now. I don’t know what he feels about me because I am not single. But we are great friends and we text a lot even when he is a busybody. Mostly, it starts in the morning with helloes and goes on till late night. All good stuff. He was way too reserved in the beginning and now is comfortable in talking to me about himself. I am a very merry person and there are a few compliments that he has given me.
I know he won’t see me as a partner but I am just worried I am having an emotional affair here and he too is a part of it without being aware of it. He says he is my friend and that it is nice. But only I know I am so much in love with him and longing to be in arms and be kissed.
I know I can’t see anything bad happen to him and especially because of me. And I can’t express my love as it can only hurt. Do I stop contacting him? If yes how?
No short answers pls.
Everytime you feel like you’re falling for him, think about the consequences and brace yourself. After a while, it will become a habit and your love for him will just drift out of the window.
Does a real friend end your friendship to avoid a potential affair?
I fell deeply for this other woman and we became best friends. Over time we got so close that everyone around us, including us could see the connection. She was amazing in every way and when I was with her presence I was so damn happy. Well, she ended our friendship telling me that she has feelings for me, that it is wrong, and that she just wants me to be happy. She said she doesn’t want to cause issues. I am dying here. It has been 5 months since I have spoken with her and I miss her so much. Everyone keeps telling me that she did it because she cared, but I am having a hard time seeing it that way. If she cared as much as I did then why is it so easy for her to just walk away and forget about me? I don’t understand how she could just give up on our friendship like that.
I know you are all going to judge me because I am married, but I really don’t need all of that sh**! I just want some answers to my actual question. I really miss her and its been 5 months…. why is it so easy for her?
How do you know it’s easy for her? Maybe it’s just as hard but I think she made the right choice because even if you did leave your wife, you’ve proven you can’t be trusted.
Another scenario is she was just using you for sex, saw that the relationship was going no where and dumped you for someone who was available.
Either way, you kind of deserve to feel badly, you broke your vows, this is punishment.
okay so here’s the thing… an affair with friend gone wrong?
i know this guy- we’ve been friends for years and lately things are spiraling out of control.
he knew full well my situation. i am married and he continuously pursued me. this is a guy that i fell head over heels for as a teen but moved away- now as an adult he comes into my life- has physical attraction and- not that i am justifying what happened- i was having problems in my marriage and we had an affair for a few months( please no judgment- i am already punishing myself enough- like i said i am not justifying it- i know it was wrong my husband and i are working through it and were are getting better).
lately this guy doesn’t even want to be friends anymore- it all went down hill when i decided to end the affair by asking him and a date to accompany us to an event as a double date as friends. we seemed to all be getting along fine as friends until we got to dinner when the disrespect from his date began. each time i tried to talk to my friend his date would nudge me. so i stopped talking to him for the rest of the night.
We purchased their tickets to this event, paid for the gas to get there by car- my friend drove with date in the front seat and for the 45 minute drive- his date insulted my husband gave me attitude and was very inconsiderate of my husband and myself.
once we arrived at the event- we let things at dinner and in the car slide and attempted to enjoy the rest of the night. there at the event- his date insulted my choice in apparel, consistently rolled her eyes at me and treated my husband and i like the plague- when i informed my friend of this the next day- he told me i was a liar and only looking to start trouble. he later apologized for
since then, i posted a couple of blogs about other problems i have had with a few other people that i have had problems with- his relatives have since read these blogs and convinced him that they were about him.
i have tried to explain to him that they aren’t about him and he refuses to believe it.he has pretty much written me off as a friend and i want him to understand that.
i want to stay friends with him but his relatives continue to keep the battle going- i am not sure as to how to handle the situation. what do i do?
okay so i forgot to put in that i was friends with this guy for nearly all my life. we had a stupid idea and that is that- it’s not that my hubby knows it was him just that it did happen…
i don’t want to lose our friendship over something as stupid as sex
so that some have a better understanding as to why i did what i did- but like i said i am not going to try to justify it it was still wrong-
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It sounds to me like you would be better off without them. I know it sucks because you guys WERE such good friends, but if he would let another woman treat you so horribly and take her side, he obviously is not a good friend. You have to have respect for yourself and that includes knowing when to say no. Don’t let him treat you like don’t deserve respect. Regardless of what you have done, (affair) there is no reason why someone who is supposed to be ther efor you wouldn’t stand up for you. I suggest you just let him go. I know it’s hard, but it really would be better for you and your husband.
Can I trust my husband’s emotional affair ‘friend’?
A few months ago I discovered my husband’s emotional affair with one of his collegues. After confronting him about it he admitted being in love with her but feeling trapped because she has a family and he doesn’t want a divorce either.He has stopped calling her but they still work together.
Last Thursday my husband had a professional dinner where he was supposed to go without me. His consultant’s wife called a few minutes before he set off to ask him whether I would be accompagning him so he reluctantly asked me if i would. I said maybe and he left because he wanted to be on time. I got ready in 5 min. and left the house taking my own car and hoping to meet her at the restaurant. Something was telling me that she would also be there.
I wasn’t wrong. We greeted each other politely and sat face to face! After dinner I realised she hadn’t taken her car so I offered her a lift!!! to her home.
Leaving my hubby flabbergasted behind! We were almost there when I asked her if she were over ” it.”…She asked what did I mean…Nothing bad had happened. I told her that he had said some pretty disturbing things to me and that I knew about the phonecalls…She said he had blown everything out of proportion.
We were talking for two hours in the car. She admited admiring and loving him but assured me that I had nothing to fear. She said she had no intention of hurting anyone. She doesn’t want to ruin her family or mine. She wants to help him become a consultant in a few months time and she wants me to create a loving home environment for him so he can be calm and focused on his work. She said that he loves me and the kids very much and when I am not OK this influences him badly.
During all that time I felt so weird… I could feel the love inside the car expanding and affecting me. She caressed my hair and held my hand like a sister would if I had one. I felt she was sincere. She told me about her hubby and family and her job and how she admires the qualities I have which she doesn’t.
I told her I don’t feel threatened by her but that I felt scared for her because it felt like K was going crazy. She said she can’t imagine leaving her peaceful relationship for a rollercoaster.
I told her he wants me to see her as a friend
In the end she expressed her wish to be friends and go out together. She hugged me and kissed me goodbye, telling me I could phone her anytime and said she was glad we finally talked.
I can’t stop thinking about that meeting. Is it possible that such good people exist?
I really think he is sooooo lucky to have fallen in love with such an amazing woman…but he is even luckier to have such a wife!!!
i’m thinking of giving her a chance to earn my trust and friendship. I know it is a very weird way of beginning a friendship but I really think we can make it work. What do you think?
Anything is possible. You are most definitely an understanding wife. My advice to you will probably be different than everyone else’s. Your husband has been honest about his feelings, you’ve met this woman … it’s possible your generosity will blow up in your face or it’s possible it will turn out to be great and she will become a great friend to you both. Personally I think the reason so many marriages end in divorce is because most people try to tie their marriages into neat little rules that society dictates. No marriage is the same as the next; rules that work for one marriage may not work for yours. Talk it out with your man and figure out what rules work for your marriage and your marriage only.
What shall I do in this stick situation with this married man? shall I have an affair with him? plz help?
Two weeks ago: So we went to wine bar as six girls. Behind us was two guys in their mid 40′s I guess or late 40′s. One of the guys tells me my friend likes u and he want to talk to u.
I went up to the friend and we exchanged numbers and I came back and sat with the girls. My friends kept telling me they are very rich men ( cause they ordered 4 bottles of champagne) and they were wearing armani suits. I didn’t give a **** if they r rich or not cause at the end of the day even if they r billionaires I don’t know how that will benefit me.
He came few times to our table and said let’s get to know each other ( but I was avoiding him) and told him let’s have coffee tomorrow so he agreed. As an individual I am not fussed to meet if someone is v rich or poor, what matters most is the personality and character. I met that man the next day in a bar but it was early around 7 pm. He was sitting with 2 other friends.
For the first 1 hour he keeps talking to his friends and they were chatting( I gathered they are very important guys from the conversation) but I also felt that I was idiot. Later they spoke about politics and we had completely different views( so it was 3 of them agreeing with one another) and me on the other hand disagreeing. So since they don’t know me I told him from the school I graduated( at that minute his friend said that’s one of the best schools in the country).
I found them very shallow and ignorant or most probably they were in denial. He( tom) told me we will go together to my guest house and we will get to know each other there. At 9 pm we all went out and tom with his 2 friends sat in black Mercedes while tom told me to get in another car rolls royce with a driver and he said to the driver to follow their car..the driver asked me do u know this guys? I replied kind of, so he asked me where did u meet them( I was choosing my words carefully so I knew the driver might tell them our chat) so I answered in a bar. So I asked the driver who do u work for? He replied I work for Tom( so I didn’t bother asking any more) then the driver told me you are very beautiful girl.
So tom dropped one of his friends and later we r still following him they pulled the car in front of taxi company and tom comes and tells me come down cause my friend who we just dropped is ill and we have to take him to hospital so u go home now with the taxi. I went in the taxi and he put in my jacket 700 dollars ( I asked him what’s this?) And said I am sorry I won’t take it cause I have my own taxi fare.
He insisted and said I will be very upset with u if u don’t take it..at the end I took. He said he will call me and that’s it! I called him and he didn’t answer my call. So I text tom and he didn’t reply and next day I tried to ring him but he didn’t answer so total it is 2 calls and 3 texts and soon after that I deleted his number.
P.S. I feel so cheap also after I saw the 700 dollars, so I wanna go in 3 weeks time( cause I’m having exams&cant go there for now) to that same bar and see if I see tom or his friend to give them the 700 back cause I don’t ******* need their money…. H
Two days ago: I was going thru my fone history calls and saw his no. I called and he answered..I told him how r u? And he recognised me quick. He apologised he couldn’t get in touch with me cause he lost his mobile and all numbers. He also said let’s meet today at 4 pm. I agreed immediately.. I was happy as I put his money in my bag& went to see him in his house. Once I reached him he kissed my cheek & took me to the living room. After 2 seconds he said let’s go upstairs. We went to the bedroom…I told him once we entered the bedroom that “I am sorry I am not prostitute & I don’t sleep around with guys” he replied I know u r not prostitute..I said I got ur money for u…
He refused n said I gave the money to u cause I like u…I don’t throw money around!! I actually like u very much…. We started kissing… He got undressed and tried to remove my dress…I told him I’m sorry I like u very much but I came here to get to know u..and I won’t have sex with u..we kissed & he told me I want u as a gf which I agreed..he told me promise me u won’t break my heart and I told him I really like u very much and I will never break ur heart…. He’s married with 6 children…he kissed and we were 2gether 3 hrs. Later he introduced me to another guy who came and I am introduced as his gf…. He told me I am going for business meeting so the rolls royce driver came& he told me I will get u a taxi sweetheart cause I have meeting…me &the cousin exchanged hello’s…we all sat at the rolls royce and later I was dropped …he told me take this money….and I refused….he told me I will call u….
The fact of the matter is I do know everything I did is against my principles in life but I really like him and the reasons
He stands for everything that I despise as individual….but I still want to see him…but he wants to have sex with me and he told me if u r my gf and we have to make love but I don’t want to have sex with him!!! What shall I do? Pls Help